Archetypes, Reframing

Are You Defined By What You Hate, Or By What You Love?

Hate Or LoveI have to admit, something has been sticking in my craw lately. I’ve seen a lot of one particular thing so much that I’ve been very tempted to simply tune out the Internet, and even more so, social media.

See, I’ve noticed that quite a lot of people, perhaps even a majority currently, have intense levels of sarcasm, and like to create controversy by pointing out what they consider to be the stupidity, lack of authenticity or character flaws of other people. And honestly, it’s very easy to get caught up in it. In fact, I’d say it’s too much so.

And, as a side bar to this issue, I’m also noticing that there are quite a few people who find it necessary to get their points across with as much filth, profanity, or crass language as possible.

Make no mistake, I’m not passing moral judgement here, and I’m anything but an angel. I’m quite well aware of the “log” in my eye.

But, honestly, if someone’s public image is based on how much profanity they can pack into a social media post, or how rude they can be, I get it, you’re playing the shock jock card, but to me, it’s simply reminiscent of the kids who thought cursing made them men in middle school.

Even more, I think the high degree of depression, and otherwise dissatisfaction that is so pronounced these days, is largely built off of this hateful persona being projected.

So, let’s address sarcasm, because sarcasm is really just hostility disguised as humor. The word sarcasm is derived from the Greek word “sarkazein” which literally means “to tear or strip the flesh off.”

In other words, the constant sarcasm is thinly veiled bullying or abuse. And what’s worse, it most often has the effect of heightening the anger and hostility of the message bearer.

If instead, we focus more on defining ourselves by what we love, the entire energy would change. I’ve long had a rule for myself, to only complain if I had a viable solution. But even more, if we’re focusing on what we love, then people know us for our positive selves.

That’s not to say we need to completely censor ourselves, and only talk about unicorns and rainbows, but honestly, the level of anger and hostility is not only at saturation levels, it’s getting old cliche’.