I think most people have seen depictions of an angel on one shoulder and a devil on the other whispering in a person’s ear. It’s a cliche’ analogy suggesting we have good and bad influences that pop up in our mind.
And while I’m going to suggest that this isn’t the work of demons, or even angels, there is some merit to the idea that not all of our thoughts are our own.
Maybe you hear a voice of doubt, or impending doom when you’re about to step out of your comfort zone and try something you haven’t done before…
Or maybe you feel convicted by guilt about something you said or did…
Or you are taunted by sarcastic remarks that seem to come from deep inside of you…
Perhaps you even feel tempted to do something you probably shouldn’t.
Many decades ago, I did quite a lot of work on myself in regard to this phenomena.
And I would suggest to you that many of the thoughts you think are your’s are not at all. We have a very strong and real tendency to absorb an imaginary or subconscious version of many of the people who have strongly impacted us in our lives. These might be representations of your parents, or your teachers, past lovers, or trusted friends.
I wish I could point you to a book I read called Mind Magic, that I read concerning this topic specifically, but I’ve not been able to find a copy in print, and I’ve looked pretty hard for it.
But in essence, what it told me was that we have something called a “thought senate” that lives in our head, all of the voices or “ghosts” of the past, who love to chime in and give their two cents. Until we become aware of them, we mistake their voices for our own thoughts, and so to get to the core of our authentic selves, it’s prudent to start weeding these voices out.
The process takes a little while, but you start to question your thoughts, and see if anything answers back or elaborates. As you do this, you work to discern who this “character” is, and engage it in further dialogue. Then you thank it for its contribution, and visualize it melting away into nothingness.
From there, you basically rinse/repeat until all of the chatter stops.
And if you commit to this practice for awhile, you’ll find that your quiet inner voice gets more pronounced, and you become more united in your focus and personality.
There are quite a few things like this, I’ve picked up along the way in my journey…but this is one of those things that was instrumental in my own self-mastery.
Try it out for yourself, and let me know how it works for you.